Beware of Gaslighting

[Amy_ISS]

Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic many people use to make someone doubt themselves or their memories, or just to create confusion. What's a phrase that a tenant, coworker or boss has attempted to use on you? Tell us what happened.

[Paperstrawwrappers]

Always with the "I was told by another employee"

There are two of us here. Most of the time simultaneously. Try again?

[AngelaESSTX]

Always with the "I was told by another employee"

There are two of us here. Most of the time simultaneously. Try again?

"The girl said..."
I am the "girl" and I never said that OR we don't hire minors so no "girl" told you anything

[Paperstrawwrappers]

"The girl said..."
I am the "girl" and I never said that OR we don't hire minors so no "girl" told you anything

Hahah we get that one too. Our 'the girl' is the resident manager, too- so no I can assure you "the girl did not say..."

[Storall/Bonita]

Hahah we get that one too. Our 'the girl' is the resident manager, too- so no I can assure you "the girl did not say..."

Our contract stipulated that no verbal agreements are permitted. I am the 5th manager this site has employed (built in 1977) and anyone who attempted to say "the other manager said I could" was met with "Hmmm, it's not noted on your contract. Unfortunately your contract precludes verbal agreements." That got me called difficult a few times, but then the problem moved out and was someone else's problem!

[Paperstrawwrappers]

Our contract stipulated that no verbal agreements are permitted. I am the 5th manager this site has employed (built in 1977) and anyone who attempted to say "the other manager said I could" was met with "Hmmm, it's not noted on your contract. Unfortunately your contract precludes verbal agreements." That got me called difficult a few times, but then the problem moved out and was someone else's problem!

Being called difficult in that situation is literally the definition of gaslighting lol

"You're being difficult" = "You're not letting me manipulate you the way I want."

[Desertgypsy]

I have a manager at one of my stores that likes to tell me that I had said something very different to a customer than I know that I said, and noted in thier account. They like to tell my DM that I've done this. Basically yo CYA for them because theres no amount of resposibility that they want to take with their property.

[RHS_TX]

I have a new tenant who, this morning, walked a couple of rows jiggling and yanking on locks. And of course I caught it all on camera and brought it to his attention.

He first tried to claim it wasn't him, and when I debunked that and told him that we take security very seriously, he called me "paranoid" and said he'd be moving to a facility where Joe Biden wasn't watching him all the time.

[Desertgypsy]

People get so angry when they're caught! Good job El Presidente!!

I have a new tenant who, this morning, walked a couple of rows jiggling and yanking on locks. And of course I caught it all on camera and brought it to his attantion.

He first tried to claim it wasn't him, and when I debunked that and told him that we take security very seriously, he called me "paranoid" and said he'd be moving to a facility where Joe Biden wasn't watching him all the time.

[RHS_TX]

Good job El Presidente!!

That's what's laughable, I'm not a supporter of who he accused me of being

[Desertgypsy]

Me either. But I think thats what made it so funny!!